There is a quiet struggle in the church that few men talk about. Many of us know it firsthand. We love Christ. We serve Him. We bring our families to worship. And yet, behind the closed doors of our phones and our hearts, something has had a grip on us — pornography, perhaps, or another pattern of sexual sin we have never been able to fully shake. We have prayed about it. We have promised God we would stop. We have tried, fallen, hidden, and tried again. And the longer it goes, the heavier the silence becomes.
If that is your story, you are not alone — and you are not unloved by the God who knows.
The first thing the gospel does for a man caught in this place is to draw a careful line between two things that often feel the same but are not. There is guilt — the honest conviction of the Holy Spirit that names truly so we can repent and be forgiven. And there is shame — the suff ocating verdict that whispers, “you are the sin.” Guilt drives a man to the cross. Shame drives him into hiding. From Genesis 3 onward, that has been the pattern: when sin entered, the fi rst instinct of the human heart was to cover up and disappear into the trees. The same instinct lives in many of our hearts today.
What shame says is this: “If I were fully known, I would be rejected.” But the gospel speaks a stronger word. In Christ, you are fully known and fully loved. His forgiveness is real. His righteousness is yours. Your identity is no longer your worst secret — it is “in Christ,” beloved of the Father, indwelt by the Spirit. And the call He gives is not to manage sin alone, but to walk in the light alongside other brothers who know the same Savior and are fighting the same fight. That is what the Oaks of Righteousness Sexual Integrity Pilot Groups are for.
Beginning June 3 and running through August 26, we will be opening a small, confi dential, gospel-centered group for men who want to come out of isolation and into honest, Christ-shaped community. A second round will run August through October. These groups are men’s-only for this pilot season; a women’s version is in development. Our trained leaders completed two formation trainings on March 21 and April 18 and are ready to walk with you. These are not therapy groups. They are not behavior management programs. They are discipleship groups — structured, guided, and saturated in the gospel — for men who want to grow in sexual integrity, whether you are presently struggling or simply want to walk more wholeheartedly with Christ.
Pray about it. Talk to the Lord honestly. If He is stirring something in you, take the next step. Confidentiality is built into how the groups are run. Your story is safe.
To learn more email:This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or sign up: ibc.church/oaks.
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another,that you may be healed.” — James 5:16
The first step out of the shadows is rarely loud. It is usually a quiet “yes” to the Spirit, and a willingness to stop hiding in the trees. The Father is not waiting with rejection. He is waiting with grace.
If that is your story, you are not alone — and you are not unloved by the God who knows.
The first thing the gospel does for a man caught in this place is to draw a careful line between two things that often feel the same but are not. There is guilt — the honest conviction of the Holy Spirit that names truly so we can repent and be forgiven. And there is shame — the suff ocating verdict that whispers, “you are the sin.” Guilt drives a man to the cross. Shame drives him into hiding. From Genesis 3 onward, that has been the pattern: when sin entered, the fi rst instinct of the human heart was to cover up and disappear into the trees. The same instinct lives in many of our hearts today.
What shame says is this: “If I were fully known, I would be rejected.” But the gospel speaks a stronger word. In Christ, you are fully known and fully loved. His forgiveness is real. His righteousness is yours. Your identity is no longer your worst secret — it is “in Christ,” beloved of the Father, indwelt by the Spirit. And the call He gives is not to manage sin alone, but to walk in the light alongside other brothers who know the same Savior and are fighting the same fight. That is what the Oaks of Righteousness Sexual Integrity Pilot Groups are for.
Beginning June 3 and running through August 26, we will be opening a small, confi dential, gospel-centered group for men who want to come out of isolation and into honest, Christ-shaped community. A second round will run August through October. These groups are men’s-only for this pilot season; a women’s version is in development. Our trained leaders completed two formation trainings on March 21 and April 18 and are ready to walk with you. These are not therapy groups. They are not behavior management programs. They are discipleship groups — structured, guided, and saturated in the gospel — for men who want to grow in sexual integrity, whether you are presently struggling or simply want to walk more wholeheartedly with Christ.
Pray about it. Talk to the Lord honestly. If He is stirring something in you, take the next step. Confidentiality is built into how the groups are run. Your story is safe.
To learn more email:This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or sign up: ibc.church/oaks.
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another,that you may be healed.” — James 5:16
The first step out of the shadows is rarely loud. It is usually a quiet “yes” to the Spirit, and a willingness to stop hiding in the trees. The Father is not waiting with rejection. He is waiting with grace.
